I ve been dating this girl for almost 8 months and everything was great although We did fight from time to time. She s had a lot of problems to deal with and has become depressed because of it over time. A lot of that to her own admission has caused a lot of our fights and ups and downs. Anyway she started talking to this girl (I m a guy btw) and they became close friends and she started to push me away because of it which caused us to fight more which eventually made us break up and they got together but very soon after that she came back saying she misses and still loves me and felt lost without me.
She still had feelings for her though so she whenever anything happens with us she withdraws and runs back to her but we always still talk and make each other laugh and smile that s where we are now. She tells me that I make her happier and can help her get through her problems better but her and the girl just get a long better and she can t handle what happens with us sometimes. So what should I do? I honestly love her and would do anything to make her happier and help her get through this and I want her back with me permanently.
Most Helpful Girl
lots of negativity here, but i think you shouldn't worry about that. its your choice how you want o handle things. i see a lot about her her needs her feelings, its commendable but id add yours to the mix. she's told you how she feels, now you figure out how you feel and you tell her.
how do ou feel about being there for her but having her run off. maybe you're ok with breaks maybe not. maybe yore ok with an open relationship. maybe not. maybe there are things you have not mentioned tat you have control over to change. i dont know.
think long and hard about what you want. and see if what you want and what she wants can be harmonized or if it will spontaneously combust.
noi judgement from me, I dont see the point. nothing is ever 100 balanced and sometimes one fives more than the other, and vice versa. were luckily never in a rut at exactly the same time... I just think you should think about it honestly. its good to be patent but dont dig yourself into the ground doing it. on the other hand relationships ebb flow. maybe she needs your support now and you'll need hers later. do you think shed be able to support you? :)
Hope it works out ok.0
Most Helpful Guy
Aye bro you need to dead that relationship I've been there. I loved a girl who wasn't easy to deal with either. She left me and went to this girl who was her so called friend. she started giving me more trouble than usual. always fighting with me and being distant.. she told me things about herself that happend while she was young so I was gonna help her through it. Bur she wanted to "work" on things by herself cuz I wouldn't handle it. But if you love someone why take away their option to love and care for you? Anyways this didn't really go so well so she called me, we talked she said she missed and loved me and said I make her feel good and etc. .. just like your girl does but I see we are similar so that means you have a good heart but she'll use you for it. She'll keep leaving experimenting cuz. She knows you'll take her backand always be there. She's just selfish, just tell her no. Leave her be I gave my ex so many tests to see what she would do but of course she'd pass but it doesn't mean anything. she'll never learn she'll keep leaving you.1