I'm a brown skinned Indian guy raised in America who's going to be 29 soon and still haven't kissed a girl yet so I know for sure if I was any other race, I would have had at least one girl be attracted to me or show interest in me by now. The only way brown or dark Indian guys are able to compensate their racial and skin color disadvantage is by being either really tall (I'm only 5'8), rich, or buff. Not all Indian girls date guys and the ones who do date only look for these types of guys. And to attract non Indian girls, you have to fit in this criteria.
Then again, my chances as an Asian guy would probably be almost as bad with girls since many girls don't like them either. I know for a fact that if I was white, black, or a Latino then I would have been on a date with a girl long ago. I'm sure I would have went out with a girl at least 11 or 12 years ago back in High School if I was white, black, or a Latino.
What do you guys and girls think? Would your chances be better, worse, or same as it is now with the opposite sex if you were a different race?
Most Helpful Girl
I am a single , white American female and I am 28 years old. I think if I was an Indian woman I would have a 100% better chance with an Indian man. I have tried dating Indian men and almost went to New Delhi this Christmas to get married, but it didn't work out.
The issue for me is that I feel no matter how well I treat an Indian men, he is going to chose an Indian woman over me. The reason I feel this way is many reasons, such as;
1-Family pressure, I know the culture and a lot of Indian families don't like their sons marrying/dating "western women."
2- Cultural makes it more difficult, examples; Western woman (me anyways) were brought up differently. My family has almost no say in who I date/marry/etc. I don't live my life to please them. I see them maybe 1 or 2 times a year on holidays. There is no drama, when I get married the only people making any choices about my life and myself and my husband. Indian men (that I have met/tried dating) let their families walk all over them and control them.
3- Indian men expect different things from their women. Men do not tell me to get in the kitchen or what to do ever. I am an outspoken, career oriented, and kind woman.
The hardest part, for me, is, I prefer Indian men. Why? I love people different from me. There is so much to learn. They are more handsome with their golden skin. Indian men are smarter than Western men. They are kinder and have a more respect for people.
Oh the woes of being a white woman...0
Most Helpful Guy
I'm an Indian guy too, although I have spent almost my whole life in India. And you are right about Indian girls not wanting to date, unless they have studied aboard or spent a large part of their lives abroad (which makes them more open minded).
I too used to believe that Indian men are not really liked by women around the world. But recently I learnt, from multiple sources, that this 'hate' about Indian men is usually confined to America. Indian guys in other countries like UK, Germany, Australia etc. are usually able to date women of different ethnicities, without too many issues.0
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