Hello, one month ago I've asked out a girl and she told me that she has a boyfriend. Since then, I keep on obsessing over her litterally despite the fact that I never took her on a date because she is taken already.
She sits next to me in biology class, and she remains next to me even though that I've asked her out.
However, it really hurts me so deeply in my heart. It has been almost one week and a half that we took Christmas vacation and I still think of her and I am being impatient to go back to university just for the sake of seeing her.
I do not know what to do anymore, I really need to get rid of such a feeling.
Kindly provide me some guidance in this situation, otherwise I'll remain in the dark and keep suffering.
Your help is essential, thank you.
Most Helpful Girl
Not easy to get over this sort of thing. Maybe try not to sit next to her for a start. Move yourself if she comes near.
It sounds like a cliché but I find the only way to get past these things when they happen is to keep busy doing other things.
I think when as a girl, this happens to me - I end up trying to change myself, go buy nicer clothes etc... which obviously is never a good idea and is a waste of time when I know they have someone else/aren't interested. I don't know what the male equvilent of this is... but don't do it. Unless its just to make u feel better in yourself.
I think with these things, you can only 'move forwards' not 'move on'. Just take each day as it comes and hope for the best. There is no quick fix unfortunately. Just try to focus on other things and not obsess.1
Most Helpful Guy
Time is the greatest healer but while you wait for that to happen, you need to distract yourself. Get involved in one of your hobbies; if you don't have any, get some. Read books. Go out with friends. Play games. Even take a little road trip if you've got the time.
The reason you're obsessing is because your brain doesn't have enough to do. Give it something to do and this will get a lot easier, I promise.0