Always have this problem
Talk to someone
Think it's going great
Some other girl shows up and thats it
I'm second choice and basically don't matter 😤
I'm not that bad
How to be someone's first choice?
Always have this problem
What Guys Said 15
I think most of us have been down this road where we become close to someone - We get feelings for them but they just want to be friends - Okay I know how you feel about compliments so I will say that I see no reason why your looks or personality may prevent anything from happening. You are 18 very young and I think you said you are about to go into art college. It is a cliché but it is true, you may just have not met the right person yet, In art college or in an artistic career, you may meet more people on your wavelength so eventually should click with someone on all the levels you wish to. Do not dwell on past episodes where you felt things have gone wrong but look to the future where you would meet someone who appreciates your looks and clicks with your creative personality. Again I say at 18 it seems so daunting but there is so much of your life ahead of you, I honestly think you have very little to worry about.
When i do this to a girl ( not that i've done it a lot or often ) its because :
1- she is not as attractive as i wish a girlfriend of mine to be and i can't see myself having anything long term with her so i dont want to hurt her.
2- she doesn't sound like good girlfriend material , this could be due to a lot of things but mainly if she doesn't look or feel feminine or is really shallow/dumb , can't be trusted and will probably hurt me somehow or cheat then i avoid having a realtionship with her.
3- I just happen to have better options , simply put.
you are pretty and you seem to have a nice body so i dont think looks are problem ( maybe that nose ring is not exactly making you look like girlfriend material for some guys?) , i know nothing of your personality but maybe you have some traits that guys dont find really... feminine or makes them unsure if they should trust you or not , and of course there is always the you're just unlucky and they happen to stumble upon a prettier, smarter, depeer, cooler and overall better girl ( highly doubt it though , as a guy finding quality girls is not easy )0
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You are second place because you allow yourself to be standing there waiting and of course - you are ok... but she is better.
Cool, the second that asshole does that.. or thinks like that.. walk the fuck away.
it doesn't work out with the other girl, she blows him off - he thinks he can come back and talk - fuck off - you ain't coming back, im gone forever
be polite, be nice - but that is a absolute end of a phase when someone puts you on second list0
eh tell me when you found out how lol2
Aside from being hot and awesome, there's nothing you can do except hope to be lucky. It's not something you or he has direct control of.0
Kiss the guy on time and not make him wait for make-up. 😜1
Maybe you are too proud or have too much self respect. You have to stake your claim. Also, don't talk too much.0
are you treating these guys like a buddy?
post some texts.0
Basically u need to stop talking to the wrong guys0
That's a sad thing to see, you'll find someone that makes you their focus. It'll come0
Talk to someone :D0
If that happens, you know for certain, that guy ain't worth your time.0
What Girls Said 6
I dunno... I wonder this myself when I was 16! Eh... I don't try anymore. I'll flirt for like um 3 seconds and thats that! I never get to close to anyone... hahah I don't have that problem just avoid guys at all cost simply because now in day relationship aren't really worth it. Hey look at the bright side you can be awesome like me and join the single for life club!1
I know the feels. :/ It happens to me every time, but I don't care anymore. The right guy is going to show up someday. If someone doesn't choose me, then I move on. That's all I can do. Just be you and someone will see that you are special and deserve to be #1. :)0
You can't make someone choose you first, especially someone specific because you're not them unfortunately. You just have to find a person who gives you as much as you you give them.0
Oh wow, do we share the same life? I would answer but i am forever #2 as well. And just to make it all the better, the people who choose someone else over me ALWAYS come back down the line and wonder why I am no longer interested.0
his loss girl... his loss0
Nothing's wrong with you, it's them.0