I had two serious relationships in my life, both of guys really hurt me and that's why it ended. Now, it's been a while and I miss having someone every single day. I don't like any guy in particular and I am not in love or anything, so I just kind of miss the feeling of blushing, of being around a guy and feeling that energy, you know? I have a couple of friends that make me feel like that, you know, they are just cute and there is some chemistry, but they are certainly NOT boyfriend material, they are very young and don't take things seriously yet I think.
What I am saying is... I sometimes wish I was like those girls, that have fun with guys and keep being single and happy. Should I try that?
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I agree with @OrangeBoy.
And furthermore, I think you need to learn how to be okay by yourself. Understand that everyone feels lonely, but don't try and change yourself to someone you're not by sleeping around because someone else does it and they feel happy. I can tell you something: they seem happy, doesn't mean they are. One night stands or friends with benefits only last for so long, and they might fill a void then and there but once it's over the loneliness just comes rushing back in and you feel... honestly? Kind of hollow. Because it comes a point where you want someone to give you love and tenderness, to be there everyday for you, that is what you want. Sleeping with a guy doesn't give you that. Because it will be just about sex, which means you two are using each other for pleasure, that's it. You might even cuddle but it doesn't mean anything really.
Bottom line is: You want a relationship, not a fuck buddy, so don't go do something you don't want. Sometimes in life we need to be patient. And learn how to be alright by ourselves and with ourselves. Maybe it's a time to give more attention and love to yourself. Consider that.2