I've bee going out with this girl for 4 months. She likes complaining about exboyfriends and how weird they were or if they weren't great. She has almost never talked about them in a positive light. One of them in particular has been trying to get her to go on a date with him for a couple weeks now, and she kept telling him no. (she tells me about a lot of these things) About a week ago she started acting distant, she wasn't texting anywhere near as often. Things got better by the end of the week and the reason she wasn't texting was because of how busy she was with work, which is understandable. I asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend, and she said she couldn't because she was going home for the long weekend.
I didn't hear from her all day yesterday, I didn't push it and gave her space. She finally responded to me today. We talked for a bit then she finally told me that she agreed to go on the date with the guy because she found out something about him and felt guilty. She kept telling me how guilty she felt before she told me she agreed to go on the date. I was shocked, I said "you agreed to go out with him?" I asked her why she didn't tell me, and she said it was a last minute thing and that the date was last night. She said it was uneventful and that it was weird. I then said that she told me she couldn't do anything this weekend because she was at home. She responded that that was true, but that she drove into the city and drove back home last night. I haven't responded since.
Now... I do acknowledge that she told me but she didn't tell me until after it happened... First off, I am right to be angry about this right? I don't want this somehow turning around on me that I'm the badguy for getting angry and that "nothing happened and it meant nothing" and I shouldn't be angry. I also don't want to say anything I'll regret, hence why I haven't sent anything back. But what should I do?
Most Helpful Girl
You have every reason to be mad. If you guys are dating an exclusive and she went on a date with someone else you have the right to feel that way. I think you need to tell her you need a little space to sort out how you feel because why you appreciate her telling you, your upset that she went out with someone else. Would she like it if you did that? What would she do? Have her out herself in your shoes.
Do you honestly see yourself forgiving her and being able to trust her again? Can that bridge ever be rebuilt? Cause if you can't then your answer is right then... A relationship can't ever be successful with out it. Do you still want to be with her?0
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Most Helpful Guy
This is yet another reason why I do not believe people should remain in contact with their ex's. It only causes problems like this. Anyway, it's breakup time! Why? Because yet again some people simply cannot let go of their past relationships and allow them to interfere with current ones. She had absolutely no right to go out with that guy. That is a complete prelude to cheating. What's next? Sex with him because something else was left unfinished? Come on!!! By going out with him she showed no respect or care about your relationship, and at the same time she shows she still has some sort of fucked up interest in that clown. Dump that stupid bitch!!!0