Okey, so if a guy is interested does he initiate the conversation every other day and ask you all kinds of stuff? Or could he just be informing you about where he is and what he is doing and tell you about his dreams and hopes?
If a girl is interested I think we are very interested in what the guy is doing and thinking, so we don't talk that much about ourselves maybe. But some guys tend to do this which makes me wonder if they are really interested in me or not.
This happens quite often when the guy seems very into me, and then he starts just talking about himself. (Of course listens to me too, but asks very little) I'm a good listener so it isn't that bad, but just wondering if it is normal for guys to act like this if they are interested? Or is it a sign they aren't?
Just wondering :)
Most Helpful Guy
I tend to find myself doing this a lot when confronted with someone who doesn't give me an earful with a handful of questions. I can be a pretty good listener if I just have to ask one question and then go, "uh huh, yes, is that so?"
If I have the type of girl where I ask something and there just isn't that much to continue the conversation, I'll start talking about myself as a kind of nervous way of at least giving me a subject I can talk about and keep things going.
One of the problems is that my main interests tend to be academic in nature. If a girl wants to talk about history or art or science or mathematics or literature or something of this sort, not like what restaurant we went to last weekend (I don't care), then usually we can talk for hours without even talking much about ourselves.
If I'm with a girl who wants to talk about fashion and shoes and things like that, I really have so little interest that I have to force myself to try to ask something to make her continue. When I feel like I've exhausted those efforts, the temptation is to go back to my comfort zone and share funny stories from my past, things of this sort, since it's at least something I know how to talk a lot about, and fill in the silence.
Mostly I'd consider it a nervous symptom, and perhaps a sign that you two haven't found something yet you can really talk at length about.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm that person who prefers to get to know a guy initially by asking them lots of questions, and hoping he'll do the same. like if a guy says to me "tell me about yourself", i get really awkward because i find it weird to do that. I don't know y lol. so ill usually answer with "what would you like to know? :)" and he'll let me know.
i love asking people questions as long as they're okay to answer them. guys who talk about themselves a lot can either be quite the narcissist OR he could be so happy to spend time with you that he wants to let u know what he's all about. it comes down to ur judgment.1
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