Never. I became long-term friends with one, she's now married.
Problem to me with crushes is that you fall in love mostly with a fantasy, having never dated this person, never knowing their most intimate thoughts (the kind of things that are often only spoken when in bed together, snuggling up against each other, etc). It's easy to think you know this person, but your mind fills in so many gaps.
Later crushes start to seem like a silly thing, and my biggest advice to my younger self would have been to act sooner, ask more girls out, and not be falling in love with fantasies of girls from a distance, to let those feelings develop from reality after spending a lot of private time together hanging out after school, after work, etc.
GoodManDave | 759 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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No. Never. I would say that I was interested in a girl I was dating at the time, but wasn't like "I MUST date her." The first date, we argued (kindly), but I assumed that that had turned her completely off to the idea of a second date. As I got to know who she was pretending to be, I would say it was like a crush, but crush would probably mean "not dating."
XRabbitHeartX | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Yes :) Almost always I've gotten some from a crush but mostly it was just dating that never progressed. With my boyfriend though it was different. We met on Tinder and I immediately crushed on him since we started talking. Thank goodness he actually wanted more and I managed to get a relationship and not just another hook up or fling.
Yup, it happened twice. With the first one (I've been in love with him for 10 years) we ended up hooking up. With the second one we ended up dating for a year. I'm quite direct when it comes to express interest in a guy (except for the first crush, I waited a lifetime lol)
Bliss-taylor | 160 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Not until I was about 19. I was kinda chubby growing up. I was an ugly duckling. My crushes were out of my league. Lol My crushes as an adult were less... dramatic also. When I think crush I think my obsessed 10-16 yr old self. Lol
I did. I had a huge crush on a guy and we ended up hooking up. He was the first guy I ever slept with. Turned out to be a douche who decided to "ghost" me after we slept together, but I never regretted it. It's cool to say that even though nothing ever came out of it I lost my virginity to someone who I was at the time super attracted to.
Yeah because I'm not afraid to be direct and ask people out regardless of how much I've been rejected in the past. It's better to know than not at all and I would rather not contemplate of what could have been or should have been. Having said that, it didn't really work out because some of those crushes that I had a relationship with didn't last that long either.
Well yeah, I would need to have a crush on someone for that to all transpire, other than random hookups. But if I know you and DON'T have some kind of feeling for you, then why would I hook up with them in the first place?
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