I feel pressured to control every moment of the interaction, where as it seems the girl only has to sit back and respond to what she cares to. Any advice on why it seems this way, or how to fix this?
Most Helpful Girl
i can understand how u feel but i think a lot of women like to feel the man is invested in the conversation, so hearing him speak gives them some kinda 'oh he's interested' vibe, u know? I'm only guessing though...
personally i reckon it should be a 2 way street where it isn't just one person guiding the conversation along.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Social awkwardness mostly. Forget what you see online. Online is where the loonies rant coz nobody listens to them in real life. Young people are nearly completely weaned by the net and it's a shame coz it's mostly just bullshit on it. Anybody living an online life must think the world's turned into an equal, understanding, nurturing place where all are accepted. It's bullshit. Most normal people take their world views from their peers still. Most men and women are old fashioned and the old views still hold sway. You still see mostly women like being approached by men and the man doing the bulk of the conversation. The man holds doors and pays for meals. He takes the lead in a relationship. Women concentrate on looking good coz they enjoy attention and can take their pick of admirers. Men are more switched on, women tend to get distracted easily. There's anomalies in every group but that's the general trend. Most women aren't assertive feminists who want control. Most men aren't feminine and sensitive and awkward. The new age guys get swallowed up in this world. They prepare for themselves for something that just isn't there. Be a proper man. Embrace it and live up to it. Women love that still. I know I won't make any friends with the women here but women love being guided and taken by the hand and being swept along in a man's wake. They demand it most of them. If your a shy, awkward, sensitive type you'll never get a woman's respect and that is the key. A guy who can't summon respect might as well be invisible to women and other men. Respect is the glue that bonds people in life0