So I found out I was pregnant and so before I told him I was pregnant. I wanted to see his stance on children first. And he was so adamant on not wanting kids. Now I don't know how to proceed from here?
Do I tell him anyway? Do I just get an abortion? Do I hide it from him? Time is ticking and I'm so confused.
Most Helpful Guy
This sounds like a you decision. Assume he'll be no kind of father and then hope to be pleasantly surprised. You can get child support from him, but beyond that maybe he won't be part of the kid's life.
If you're worried about the kid growing up with only one parent, that's not so horrible. My mom was a single mom. She did the best she could and always made me and my siblings feel loved.
You can be a good mum on your own.
If you decide you dont want to go through with it, nip it in the bud asap. One day this thing growing inside of you has the potential to be a walking talking thinking feeling member of the human race. But for now it's a cluster of parasitic cells. It's up to you to decide if you want it to all just be a bad memory or if you want it to grow to be your child.1
Most Helpful Girl
I would tell him. He helped to create this child and now the both of you need to figure out what you want to do.
It's not fair for you to bear this secret on your own. He needs to be involved. Perhaps after learning you are pregnant his mind might change. Sometimes guys are adamant about not wanting children, but once they find out a girl is pregnant with their kid, their mind changes. Usually these people were not too adamant about wanting kids though.
But who knows. It's worth it to talk it out with him. Let him be involved in whatever decision you guys choose.
There are plenty of options. Do lots of research and try to make a decision that works best for both if you of you can.0