I been dating boyfriend for 3 months. He is a good guy and we are in love. We are both 24 years old. He has no job right but is looking. He is serious about a relationship with me. He wants me to give him $200 to help pay an electric bill for his house his sister is giving him. He took me to the beach for Valentine's Day plus he bought me an outfit and other gifts. His sister has been helping him whenever he needs money. Until now this is the first time he has asked me to give him money. It's nothing for me to give him $200. he has plans of owning his own business soon and is trying to get that started also while looking for a job. I'm just wondering girls would you do this for your boyfriend or what does it mean if I give him the money?
Most Helpful Guy
God no. People take on too much responsible too soon in relationships now a days, and they get too serious too fast. Even if you had been dating him for awhile, you still shouldn't do it. You should only even consider it after a somewhat firm commitment (engaged or married) has been established.
My cousin had dated this guy for years. He bought a house without consulting her. She helped him furnish it. It turns out that he was and had been cheating on her. She is out thousands of dollars.3
Most Helpful Girl
You've only known him for 3 months and he's already asking for money.
"his sister is giving him"
"His sister has been helping him whenever he needs money."
Big red flag. How is he supposed to pay you back if he can't even handle his own affairs? He has no backup plan and sounds financially irresponsible. How on earth does he plan on starting a business, if he doesn't even have 200 bucks saved up? A business requires some kind of capital to start with and he sounds like he's in fuckloads of debt, relying on other people to bail him out.
I love my boyfriend and if he needed £200 for something, I'd happily give it. But we've been an item for 4 years and living together - I can trust him to keep his promises. You, on the other hand, are in that lovey dovey stage where you are at risk of easily being manipulated because stomach butterflies are in charge rather than common sense.
A 3 month relationship isn't worth the risk, unless you're happy to never see your money again.4