I strongly believe that in the next ten years women will be approaching men and paying for their dates.
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Most Helpful Girl
in my opinion if girls aren't into you now they won't suddenly be if they had to approach. I don't think asking will make woman less picky at all, if anything it would make them more picky, more competitive. If they are going to have to more or less take care of you, you better have pretty fierce genes and many would probably be willing to fight for the top. The top will become less picky and things would probably just get a lot worse for most men. She may settle and make a move for someone not on the top when the clock starts ticking but maybe not, not if she feels she has a chance with the top. I really don't think things will get better for most guys if the roles were reversed. I really don't think guys would like it if woman had even more power but I could absolutely be wrong.
I for one have always asked guys out, I like having control of the relationship. I have always paid and been able to take my time with the sexual stuff... they are on my time table. I am extremely picky and abhor being asked out, feels weak. Most of my girlfriends are in the same boat as me but they are all picky and they would rather die alone or just get pregnant by who they think has great genes (if they get desperate) and then marry each other for the tax breaks and for the 2 incomes... they can help each other raise each others kids and date guys if they want or not. I don't think it would be smart for guys to give away any more power... but that's just me. To each their own.0
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Most Helpful Guy
I don't see how it will benefit guys.
The same guys who currently bitch about getting rejected aren't going to suddenly have girls flocking to them and asking them out. If anything it would be harder because if girls make the first move they will be approaching primarily based on physical appearance just like guys currently do. If you dont know the person thats the only thing you have to go on, so attractiveness will be the main criteria by which girls will decide who to approach. Youd also potentially have the annoyance of girls you aren't interested in approaching you. So youd be forced to waste time interacting with girls you have zero interest in.
When guys are expected to make the first move you get the benefit of choosing who you want to interact with AND you get the chance to win her over with your personality if your looks aren't stellar.
The only thing I hate is the expectation that guys would pay for the dates, Im totally cool with that tradition dying in a fire. Also girls who purposely play hard to get or act disinterested really suck. Otherwise Im fine with being expected to make the first move.