There is this really shy girl in my class that I like but I have no idea how to start talking to her. We both know that we each exist and are friends on social networks but that's pretty much it. She is really shy and really only talks to a few select people from what I can tell. Another barrier that prevents me from talking to her is the fact that every other person who sits around me is someone I know and am friends with, meaning that it seems slightly strange for me to talk to the one person I don't know (at least I think). How should I go about starting to talk to her? What should I say? I searched this type of stuff online but the only thing that comes up is advice saying to say lines like "I like your eyes" but that is just something that I think is way too big of a thing to say for someone you barely know or talk to. We are in all the same classes but not same teachers and I am a person who is not introverted, but at the same time not an extrovert if that helps. NOTE: I am not trying to ask this girl out immediately or anything. I want to be friends and come to a point where we can talk freely with one another. Also please say if you're a girl or boy. Thanks! P. S. I, the asker of this question, am a boy.
How to talk to a really shy girl? High School?
What Girls Said 1
Honestly, try to talk one the people that she talks to so you can get close to her. That's all i can say really.. For me im really shy and if a guy tries to talk to me i would feel uncomfortable and just nodded and smile all the time cause i have no interest in them. Does she have interest in you?1
What Guys Said 2
While this isn't exactly like you are asking her out (or at least not immediately), I guess it is kind of similar. A lot of it is just building the courage to go up and talk to her.
It actually wouldn't be strange to talk to someone new. Most people, in reality, don't care if they see someone talking. Friends especially tend to be pretty cool with helping out a friend who is trying to start something with a girl he is interested in (well, assuming they are quality friends lol).
Think about it... If someone you didn't know went up to a friend of yours and started talking to them, would you be creeped out? Probably not.
Have you introduced yourself to her yet? If not, it may be best just to keep it simple. Just go up to her and be like, "Hi-- I've seen you around in my class and stuff, but I just realized I haven't had a chance to talk to you yet. I'm ____."
*she responds with something, bring up a topic for conversation-- anything lighthearted*
*end conversation, say "I'll see you tomorrow" or something.*
Since she is shy, there are some things to be aware of:
1.) She probably won't become best buddies with you on the first go. She may be a bit awkward too. Shy people tend to only have easy casual conversation with people they've had repeated exposure to. So, if the initial however many conversations are kind of awkward, fear not. Keep going for them. Shy people will warm up to you over time (well, if they have a favorable impression of you.)
2.) Don't be TOO outgoing and talkative: It may even be best to just keep a relatively short conversation (if it turns out a bit awkward at least) and to go for longer conversations as you are exposed to her more. It can be a turn off (and they won't want to talk to you anymore lol) to shy people if you are so outgoing you overwhelm them. Be charismatic, confident, happy, whatever is you, but don't overwhelm them where they have no breathing room.
Don't stress it dude! Just keep it casual. Don't stress out. Just go with the flow of things. It will go smoothly. Introductions are the hardest part, but if you two hit it off and become good friends, it will all seem like a distant memory.
Note: On GAG, guys are blue and girls are pink. They are also categorized. I am blue and in the dude section, hence I am a dude.1
Dont start with talking. Be silent and wave to her when you pass in a hallway. If she is as shy as she says, her waving back will be something that boarders on her confort zone.
If you do this in front of people, dont expect an immidiate response, but it will show that you arnt worried by the perseption of others0
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