My boyfriend is constantly judging me on my past and can't let it go. I was on a very long relationship, which ended because I fell for someone else, kissed him, and immediately broke up with boyfriend. The thing with this second guy didn't work and really hurt me a lot, and I entered a slut phase which lasted six months. I was abroad and slept with 13 guys (every 2 weeks I had an one night stand). After that I calmed on, dated a guy (not seriously), but it was something rather calm that last a few months and we became friends at the end. Then met my boyfriend and became serious with him.
I can understand that my past is not brilliant and that it may be scary for a guy to think that I slept with a lot of guys, but the thing is that his past is even worse: while he had a girlfriend, he had 2 parallel relationships, one after the other. He says he didn't have the guts to break up because girlfriend was too dependent. After breaking up, he had two one night stands and then we met. (in total he has been with 11 women, i was with 17 guys).
It was hard for me to deal with his past, but he really does shower me with love so I'm letting go of his infidelity. Yet, he's constantly mistrusting me just because of a sex spree that occurred one year before I was with him. I try to be understanding of his insecurities, but then I think he's being unfair to me and also sexist in some remarks.
How can I/we deal with this? I think that this is ruining us. I made an effort to "forgive" his cheating and trust him, but he's not letting go of my past and thinks it's worse than his because I had sex "without feelings"
Most Helpful Guy
He's being a hypocrite here. You're better off with someone else.1
Most Helpful Girl
He's just angry U have a higher number.0