Most Helpful Girl
Your perfect partner won't just fall from the sky one day, you actually have to put yourself out there to find somebody to love.
But just cos your other half hasn't entered your life yet doesn't mean that you should be a sitting duck. DO focus on yourself, DO try to improve, DO try to become the best version of yourself that you possibly can, so that when you finally find that someone special, they're amazed by how great you are.
Focus on yourself but ALSO put yourself out there. Combine the two. That right there calls for success.
Most Helpful Guy
True for girls, but not for guys (except for EXTREMELY hot guys). Men are still 'expected' to pursue women, so focussing on themselves will lead them nowhere, unless they actively seek women.