It seems that one of my most prominent weaknesses in dating is giving girls a fair choice, often standing back and letting her contemplate what her options are, rather than stepping forward and asserting my will.
Every single time, no matter how close we are, she goes with the guy who offers first. She will happily sit on multiple laps until one grabs a hold of her. The fact we connect and have many things in common is irrelevant. That's what friends are for I guess.
I ponder this, and wonder if women actually choose their partners, or their partners choose them. It's kind of depressing, considering how much of our history is laden with examples where women didn't have a choice.
Being fair has given unfair results. Being respectful means getting taken for granted. I've learned that no matter how much you connect with a girl, I can't trust her to make the decision to be together and choose me. I have to make her choose me through assertion, otherwise she blissfully floats in the Spring breeze until another guy does.