Some of the guys saying women should forgo an education and higher paying jobs because it makes them less desirable to men.
I am a woman who makes more or just as much as a few of the guys I have dated in the past. I'm single now and am worried this is making it hard for me to find a guy.
So do guys really find it offensive if a woman has a decent job?
I worked really hard to get where I am. I am planning on buying a home, because I don't think I'll ever get married, so why wait? I wold like to get married and have kids, but apparently no man wants me now? Yet some guys complain about all women being gold diggers? But then reject women who have good jobs?
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Being young means being inexperienced and being inexperienced means that you don't know many things very well including yourself. This creates a sense of fear and your basis for "knowledge" is simply "facts" passed on to you by others with many of those facts being rubbish. This site is a good example of that - teenagers answering life questions is something ridiculous.
So, fear is based in ignorance and it is this ignorance and reliance on the opinions of others - so much so at times, that you don't think and formulate your own opinions but echo others.
That is the problem with these "men" who have a difficult time if their woman makes more than them.
Now, I will be honest, as a male, there is something disconcerting about it because the very role of a male besides providing sperm is to be the caretaker and protector of his family against the outside world. A man doesn't feel threatened by a well-off woman so much as he begins to feel unneeded and that is actually more upsetting. The thinking is "If you don't need us, then why would you stay with us - you will likely find another guy who can protect you better." This can be frightening to us because, deep down, more than sex, a man NEEDS to feel a sense of loyalty and security and that he can let his guard down with his woman. Fighting threats from the outside world is difficult enough so the last thing we want are threats at home... and a man who is in ignorant fear will feel insecure with a financially well-off woman because he feels he may lose her. Indeed, that instinctive fear may prevent us from getting into a relationship because we have that expectation of never being secure while we are in it.
Of course, some men are adult enough and realize that they have to live with that fear but that it can be overcome with reason and recognizing that women are rising in status in society. Furthermore, a real adult man who understands love - real love - realizes that is a powerful bond to help secure the relationship no matter who makes the most money.
Again, though, it is the fear of losing his woman that many a man might have a difficult time with a woman who is his financial equal or better.
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