When my ex broke up with me, he used some pretty low blows in comparing the woman he left me for. He basically made fun of me for having a physical handicap. It hurt a lot and since then I haven't had the same confidence that I once did. When I see guys look at me and smile, I tend to look down. I have become withdrawn and am not as confident as I once was. I have done steps to better myself physically since my ex, but no matter what I do, I am still self conscious. What should I do to get over this?
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I never really used to have self-esteem problems until I was with a guy who was degrading towards me. It sucks. I'm with someone much better now, but I still wake up in the middle of the night thinking of the things he had said to me that make me self conscious. I don't know how to make it better except to discuss it with someone you trust and let them console you. It may take a while, and you may never have the same confidence level you once had, but it will start to come back. Love yourself for every flaw. He was trying to make himself feel better about leaving you by making those comparisons. The right person will love everything about you.1