I had a misunderstanding with my boyfriend, I would like to give him silent treatment but his mother is sick and going for surgery what should I do?


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  • The silent treatment is childish passive-aggression, and something you should be well beyond by now, especially since you recognize it is a misunderstanding.
    So, whether you misunderstood him (in which case you have no right to give him the business, it was YOU who misunderstood), or he who misunderstood you (in which case, by seeing it as a misunderstanding, you should be able to recognize, and forgive, his misunderstanding), it should not matter. You should be more mature about this. You should TALK, because COMMUNICATION prevents misunderstandings, and the silent treatment, by definition, is NOT COMMUNICATING.

    And you should put his mother's health, and his emotional stress due to her medical condition, at least in this moment, as more important than your hurt feelings over what you admittedly recognize as a misunderstanding, and you should be there for him and sympathetic, not angsty and selfish.

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  • ... what do you hope to accomplish via giving him the silent treatment? Do you think you'll actually communicate anything, like being clear with which of his actions specifically didn't sit right with you, via telepathic measures?

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  • What should you do? You should act like a mature and responsible adult, practice humility, and tell him that you hope his mother does well in her surgery and has a speedy recovery. Then, after a few days, you talk to him about the "misunderstanding" like, again, a mature and responsible adult.

    Problem solved *claps dust off hands*

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  • So you think not talking to him about the issue and by extention actively trying to resolve it, is going to fix the problem instead of make it worse and piss him off in the process making him want to ignore you thus perpetuating the issue? Seems like you didn't think this out. Being passive aggressive does nothing but create division so if you want to damage your relationship then use it but otherwise try communicating, it usually works a lot better.

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  • Grow up.

    lh3.googleusercontent.com/.../trix_thumb.jpg

    Seriously, consciously acting angry and disrespectful towards him is never a good solution. Use that energy to try to overcome obstacles, not create new ones.

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  • What are you 12? Silent treatment? What does that solve? Seriously? Why play these stupid games. So you had a fight, everyone does. It is how you handle this that defines who you are and if this will last. You want to be a child and ruin your relationship, continue to act like a child. Grow up and just communicate, get over it and move on.

    Silent treatment…. so stupid….

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  • people still do the "silent" treatment? seriously? that childish thing still exists?
    if you are ignoring him, why give a crap about his mom?

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    • Yeah still happens

    • @Moose2coolvargas thats just sad smh... i usually solve all my problems over a bottle... she's mad for the first 30 mins... then really cooperative... lol

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  • Don't give him the silent treatment, he obviously needs you right now. Show love and support, if he can't depend on you during this time he will probably realize that and leave you and then your silent treatment would have been a waste of time anyway. I'm sure you two can talk about it like adults.

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  • The silent treatment is pathetic. Don't do it. Talk to him about why you're upset but maybe save it until after his mother's surgery. Support him during this difficult time, if it's not something you can just let go, wait until the timing is better.

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  • Put this argument aside, His moms sick and this is the time you need to be supportive, not kick him in the balls further when he is already down.

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  • Get over your misunderstanding and be a supportive girlfriend.

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  • im sure u already know whats the right choice
    its hard to let go of things especially when you're upset, but there are more important things going on here so

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