I'm a 19 year old college student and I never get dates. I've always been painfully shy and in high school I was really awkward too. I've worked on it a bit now in college, but I'm still very shy, and the fact that it's community college doesn't help.
Apparently, quite a few guys liked me in middle school and high school. I found out through their friends though, only a few of them ever asked me out and they did it OVER TEXT. Sometimes, while at a fast food place or the mall, some random guys will come over, try to talk to me, and sometimes ask for my number.
However, now in college, I feel pretty invisible. In public, I often feel like guys are staring at me. If I talk to guys in class, they often act awkward unless they're pretty outgoing. Either way, I get very nervous because of how bad of social anxiety I have, and I will be too scared to talk to them again.
I've always had incredibly low self esteem, so I've never thought of myself as the least bit attractive. People will tell me I am, but I always suspect they are lying.
Despite all of this, I feel very invisible and ugly when I notice guys talking to/asking out the pretty, more talkative girls in classes. My friends who are more outgoing always talk about their boyfriends to me, and I feel really left out. At this point, I just feel that something is very very wrong with my appearance/demeanor/both.
I guess my question is, assuming I'm not hideous (could be the problem), is my problem that I come off as weird or something to guys in class? Even people who aren't extremely attractive seem to get attention if they're more talkative. What is wrong with me?
Most Helpful Guy
at college there is a lot of good looking girls so you won't really stand out much there , if you want to meet more guys you have to get yourself out there more and be somewhere that is maybe more male dominated or you'd stand out somehow. at college is a lot of options to meet people like in class , gym , library , nearby restaurants , parties etc0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, its hard to tell. I've never seen you, post a picture? You are a stranger to me so I guess I bluntly could kinda care less about your feelings? (Ouch) I didn't intend to make it sound so rude but I mean ill be honest. Haha... but yeah that guy is right... people know when you're insecure and thats a big turn off... how can someone love you if you can't even love yourself? Work on THAT boo. POST A SELFIE GIIRRLLL0