I see all the time on GAG that guys like direct girls, girls who flirt, approach the guy first etc.
I dont know if its because its on a app, but I find it hard to belive. The times I have been making an effort, giving detailed answers, ask questions back, when i flirt and suggest us hangig out (f. ex. i'll say "you should show me sometime" ) it never really ends well. When i say well, i mean we actually meet up, or they ask me out,
I dont expect them to ask me out, but when we are at the point where im comfortable enough to do so they show signs of disinterest (in my opinion anyway).
So being direct, or being agressive never really works out. I know on online dating and on dating apps there is a numbers game, but being agressive obviously doesn't get me anywhere.
Do guys just say that they like agressive girls because they are sick of approaching girls and not because they actually like it?
In person and online being the agressive one actually never works in my favor. Is it just the fact that guys on here dont representate guys in the real world?
Most Helpful Guy
I think that there's plenty of guys that would do but they want to be dominant because it is what society expects of them (just like how girls think they are dirty, sluts, etc. for sleeping around, lots of guys think it is unmasculine to not approach and that they are little bitches if they do not have sex).
more generally - speaking in terms of men AND women - people like being approached because it is less work for them (and they don't have to risk rejection) but they dislike the awkwardness of having to reject somebody and they dislike the fact there is less choice involved (you can choose who you approach, but you don't get to choose who approaches you).
there are also guys that THINK they want to be approached because they are inexperienced and haven't had the experience or chance to reflect on themselves enough to realise why it is not what they actually want.
then there are guys like me that want to be dominant naturally but don't like the idea that it is expected of us and don't like the fact that women put in so little effort even after the initial interaction (you get the impression that if she is such a 'cold fish' during the interaction that she is probably going to be a 'cold fish' in bed too).0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
According to things I have observed, it usually works.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE