I have to point out I am VERY shy, so my full personality isn't on point when on these dates. It's more of me trying not to be nervous but it doesn't usually work. It this really that big of a deal? I know it sets me back but how much?
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Apparently it is that big a deal.
They're asking you out, then giving up.
Honestly, i doubt your personality is so bad they can't stand you, because guys will stick around with a girl who is pleasant hot and might have sex. So i suspect you're actually giving the impression you're bored and they have no chance.
Best suggestion? If you are liking the guy and want to go out again, you need to blurt this out:
"i'm having a good time, I'm sorry I get so shy around guys like you. I hope you'll want to see me again"
I realize as a shy person that's scary as shit to say, but on the up side, you only have to be brave for one moment, rather then being not shy for hours :p
Since you could waste the entire date trying to say it, you will say it when the cheque arrives , before its paid. That's the rule. You have to say it right then.