Why do men get bored of relationships so quickly? (Page 2)

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My friends and I have all been with our boyfriend's for over a year and now all three guys have gotten colder, seem bored of us, and their libidos have gotten lower. I try everything, when I try to cook my boyfriend something he finds any tiny reason to complain I never complain when he cooks for me, I've been trying to dress cute, work out, always look my best but he can't even seem to be bothered to spend much time with me. He used to be THE cuddliest most affectionate / passionate person for the first year, so I still try to interact with him in the same way we always used to. He kisses me with tight lips like I'm his grandma and pushes me away when I hug him too long. I don't even know how to interact with him anymore. 

I don't think he really even realises he's doing it but HOLY SHIT it hurts a lot It's like a punch to the stomach and I feel this rejection daily! I usually have to initiate sex and I have been super sexually frustrated lately, he enjoys it when we start but he never really seeks it out or starts it anymore. Last night we were touching each other and I after we came I asked if it was bad that I still wanted to have sex with him and he said "YES... just kidding?" and went to sleep. I try to be the best girlfriend I can be but I constantly get rejected by him and ignored and it's really making me depressed. I want to do really sexy things for him to keep him excited and turn him on but I am SO SCARED to because I get rejected constantly and I feel like such a loser when he shuts me down over and over. Then when I ask him if he wants to break up he cries and freaks out, so if he doesn't really want to be with me but he also doesn't want to be without me what does he want? I give him his space and I'm not needy ( when I am lonely I usually don't say anything until it's really hurting because I don't want to be annoying) I just want a normal relationship, I don't want anything more than what we had to begin with.

rescuemyheart · Answer

My only advive is don't listen to ANYone on here. Talk to him. Humans are too complex for generalizations. Only he knows what's going on. Communicate. Fix it if you can. If not move on.

slatyb · Answer

You need a new guy. This guy has no respect for you. When a young relationship is at this point, it's over. You're miserable. Break up with him so you can have a chance to have something good.

Jimrat86 · Answer

Some people just don't make any logical sense.  The women I date I treat like queens and that sends them running for some reason. Just leave him for someone better.

fueledbythc · Answer

Sounds like he enjoys video games over his girlfriend. I 100% understand it. Video games are just more interesting than having sex. All I think about all day is how I'm gnna get the next dunk in smash bros.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Tl;dr. It's all about the hunt for many guys. Once his prey has laid down, the thrill of the hunt is gone.

adollarsworth · Answer

Like it or not, it is much easier for a girl to find a guy than the other way around. Its purely nature. Think about finding someone else. Sounds like you both may be happier. It will just be easier for you.

yunggRooster007 · Answer

Girls please answer this :/

abundantlyrich · Answer

I'd say with him personally? the honeymoon phase is over between you two. The spark died with him.

Zendrya · Answer

have you talked to him about it? Not about breaking up but like about the actual issue?

joeb73 · Answer

to me he is getting to passive and taking the relationship and sex for granted

iFarted · Answer

You forgot to put "some" men. I'm always one to go all in, all my eggs in 1 basket. Once I feel that I want a relationship with a girl then she's my everything.

GreatnessRevamped · Answer

If you are getting that, then reciprocate.  Be cold to him, and stop initiating sex.  See how he reacts.

Careless_Whisper · Answer

From what I've seen over many years it's usually women who get bored of relationships quickly, not men.

clampfan101 · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend, but doubt I'd get bored of a relationship if I had one.

inlovewithfreedom · Answer

guys are always the same.. if he doesn't fall in love with the girl, he will be bored one day... its obvious

Anonymous · Answer

if he constantly rejects you and you are lonely but can't even feel comfortable expressing it- dump him

Anonymous · Answer

I think you deserve better. I wish i had a girlfriend who cared about me as much as that!! :(

AdamThomas · Answer

Sounds like low testosterone to me.

Anonymous · Answer

for every pussy on this earth there is a man that has gotten sick of pounding it.

StickStickity13 · Answer

Women get boring after awhile...

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