I'm trying to get over someone I thought I was over... when I met this guy. He is so sweet, so nice and he takes care of me like no one ever has before. We go to the same Latin dancing club and we became each other's fave dance partners. Then I added him on FB and he asked me for my number (that was about a week and a half ago).
He is definitely boyfriend-material to me. We have seen each other and hung out a couple times and we are going on a date this Friday. My only worry is that I don't feel ready to date steadily yet, but I don't want to miss the opportunity to meet a great guy and/or break his heart. The last thing I want to do is to lead him on and end up hurting him.
I was thinking about going on that date with him and later tell him what's up with me, slow things down and take more time to get to know each other better.
What do you guys think?
Most Helpful Guy
It's a very simple situation.. you tell him whatever is going on in your mind. Randomly? Out of the blue? Nopes
Ask him about his past.. whether he had a girlfriend or something.. went through breakup or no? If he did.. then casually tell him your situation and ask him what'd he do if he were in your position.. where he wasn't sure that he was ready to date yet. If he's smart enough, he'll understand. Or else spell out to him that you are in this position. If you want, I can guide you through this, PM me1
Most Helpful Girl
I think that it's perfectly okay if you don't feel ready to jump back in to a relationship just yet. That is totally up to you!
If he truly cares about you he will be willing to take the time. However, you definitely need to be honest with him. Let him know what's up.
Most people are pretty reasonable when it comes to situations like this. If you need a month or two to get into a place where you feel you are ready for a relationship, then so be it.
The best way is to communicate with him and be honest. If after a few months you still don't feel ready, be honest with him and let him know. By communicating, he has a chance to think about whether the situation suits him or not.