I'm having a hard time feeling attracted to him otherwise.
Hi, I'm sure some of you know who I am. I'm famously single, but recently I've begun going on dates with a young man who is COMPLETELY enamored with me. I'm not exaggerating. He does pretty much everything most girls want: he is patient, he does his best to respect my boundaries, and he consistently tells me how beautiful and perfect I am and how much he likes me. Yet, I continue to have a problem with forming an attraction and a bond with him.
I think he's physically attractive all things considered, but in the past when I have liked men the attraction was much stronger. I was sure that I liked them, I was sure that I was attracted to them, and I wasn't too hesitant with wanting to be with them. With this guy however I find myself feeling hot and cold, which is NOT my personality.
So I suppose my question more or less is if you can offer me any informative input on the situation and if you think I should continue to see this guy or not?
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I think you should continue, here is why.
Often times we discover new things about our partners that we never have guessed, secrets, personalities, both good and bad. Not only would it be good practice to wait through the times when you are feeling hot and cold but either prep you for a relationship with this guy or assist you with future relationships. I would consider it a good habit, but that is me. Getting cold feet is not a deal breaker. Of course, i am only repeating the arguments i have had with myself about this but, generally, when faced with a slight misstep such as feeling hot and cold it is far outweighed by what the future can bring. Now, things don't always work out but knowing that you can give your full self to someone is quite important. Perhaps that is a males perspective, after all chivalry is unfortunately dead.1
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