We've been together 5 years. But at the start he either paid or we paid for ourselves. But the past 3 years, every date has been planned by me and I covered paying both of us. He says it's really old fashioned for the guy to pay. But I'm also making more than him too. I'd just appreciate some equal effort
Most Helpful Guy
Well, now you know what it's like to be the man of the house. Want more responsibilities?
In any case, if that is an issue, then talk to your significant other. You know. Communicate. It's not hard. Use your words. If you have a problem, then talk to him about it. If you can't even talk to him, then how exactly do you think the relationship is going to last?0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm a little old school and I prefer the guy to pay if we go out and he can afford to pay. If he can't afford it, but I can then I have no problem paying for both of us.
It may be "old fashioned" for the guy to pay, but this guy is making you the man in the relationship and it sounds like you are resentful. Expecting equal effort is NOT unreasonable and if he doesn't like it then you can keave. I know 5 years is a long time to throw away, but there are plenty of men who will treat you much better1