I met a new guy and I want to make him my boyfriend. But he's popular and I've heard he's had lots of fwbs and hookups. He's fucked his female friends too. What can I do to make him commit to me fast instead of dating and hanging out like how I usually do? I don't want to compete for him.
Most Helpful Guy
I see two options. A. become one of his "pod" and be treated like the rest. I don't think that is going to work... why would he just pick you when he has a herd of females and more coming?
B) Be different. Be enticing, intreaguing, peak his intelligence and desires, and then hold your boundaries. Respect yourself before him and let him know you are a quality person, not to be used and abused. He will either respect that or move on.
I think option B could work if you can paint the right picture for him. But be forewarned, its going to be work holding him. Its possible, but expect a lot of work on his part and yours. pain and suffering is good, but know it is coming... if you want book references and youtube links where I got this view, lmk.0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think you should bother.0