i get hit on a lot and i'm not a "sweet" girl.
i'm more comfortable changing a first date to a drinking date. and i'll never use the word date. formal things make me feel awkward and i get anxiety. i like the casualness of drinks at a sportsbar and i feel more relaxed after sharing a round.
i hate talking about feelings because it makes me feel them. i will change the subject if you bring up my feelings.
i will always tell other people that we're just friends even if we've been seeing each other for months because i don't want to be too forward.
i'm worried all of the things i do to keep me comfortable are telling men i'm not interested when really i just never know who to let in and who's a pig. i have so many walls.
i can't seem to reassure the few men i like enough to keep them around... what if we had the best sex and laughed all day long but i kept doing things like the above? would it scare you off? what can i do or do i just need to find the right man...
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guys tell you this because you have walls up. girls with walls up tend to be choosy and are not easy to get in bed. if a guy really liked you he would understand your walls and slowly get to know you and be your man at the same time. the guys you're meeting after having a round of drinks probably just want to get you in bed but dont think you're about that life0