So I'm 21; he's 27. He recently moved here from another country. His native language is Spanish. We matched on tinder (I know I know it has a bad rep but I haven't had bad player experiences... It really depends on the person). He deleted his account after we started talking and he gave me his number. We set a date for this coming Saturday. He asked me to brunch and to walk, but then today he said there was a change of plans and his friends are having a large get together and he asked if I would like to go to that instead, then walk around afterwards. I agreed to.. They are all natives of other countries and will all be speaking Spanish. I know some Spanish but I'm not fluent. I stated I'd like to meet him someplace shortly before and he said of course and said a place we could meet. He seems really nice; I've stalked his Instagram and he's a real dude and has many many photos and seems to be the same person as he acts to me.
Should I go for it or is it a bad first date?
Most Helpful Guy
Meet him first at a very crowded and very public place - like a coffee house.
He very well could be lying to you that you two would be surrounded by people, just to imply to your unsubconscious that you would be safe there. So, when you would get there - thinking you would be safe because of the extra people, you would then walk into an completely empty house where he would, once again, lie and say something like "Oh, no. Sadly none of my friends could make it. But hey - you are here, so let's party, take drugs, have sex and then I'll cook you in my oven and cannibalize you"
... but hey, I could be wrong and I sincerely hope so1
Most Helpful Girl
im not understanding why people dont go out on dates anymore. like in PUBLIC PLACES! it is not wise to go over to a strangers house, regardless of what language he speaks. tell this guy that he needs to take you on a proper date like to dinner, movies, etc. if he is not willing to do that then he shouldn't get to see you.1
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