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so if she's direct will you reject her?
@Azara Okay fine, I think it is ok but I would feel less of a man. But still it's okay.
i was jut curios because your answer was a bit ambiguous. thanks for clarifying. i think i can understand. i dont feel less of a 'man' obviously, but i feel less 'me'. if i want for the guy to approach or especially if he watches me off guard. i dont like that. i prefer to be in control.
@Azara You know, there was this girl who was keep approaching me at school, initiating conversation and clearly she was in control but I didn't like it because I still believe in roles. What a man and woman should do, so linking it back to my first reply you better be subtle. Like talking to that guy and asking him a question just to have a conversation but without him suspecting that you like him. Don't be obvious that much. Or I suggest just turn things gradually.
ok, i was explaining hw i can understand the feeling of preferring to ask out, so im not sure why you think its appropisate to tell me what im supposed to do. im comfortable asking guys to as apposed to being asked ot. if a guy is uncomfortable with that, that os not my problem, and it means he either broadens his horizons or we dont get all.i just finished explaining how im not going to reject a guy for making the first move-thigh a lot of guys wold- but i simply prefer it. and i wolds not have a conversation then drop hints nor pounce. i get to know some one over time as friends then when im ready i ask him out. if he rejects me thats his right, as its mine to ask him out, and if he beats me to it and im ready i won't reject him. im flexible in how things go but i still have my preferences, and that should ld be respected. It is not appropriate to tell adults what they should do when what they do is not harming anyone.
calling hypocrisy 'roles' does not make it any more rational than calling it hypocrisy.
@Azara Okay I understand. I didn't mean to disrespect you or dictate you that's why I was suggesting and not giving you an option. I am sorry. And by the way, it's even nice when girls make the first move which rarely happens.
And I thought you were the asker that's why I was keep on assuming you were 19. Truly sorry.
no problem. I appreciated hearing your views, and im glad we ended things amicably :)
thank you. I agree but that was really well thought out. a lot of people dont bother putting thought into it.
what happens next? like she asks you out, you're confused, now she's confused bc she's standing there with a confused guy on her hands after she's been very clear.. so what happens next?
@Azara depends on if I like her or not
well obviously if you like her. if you don't like her it should not matter that she approached 'first' because you are not interested anyways,i meant if you like her.
@Azara Then I feel good I suppose