My boyfriend will be leaving the city for further studies. He loves me yeah. But I've seen a few friends in LDRs. And they have fights almost everyday. Insecurity being the major issue. Is it always this way? Or can things work out? Tbh I am a bit possessive. Not much but yeah a lil😏
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If yr relationship can't survive a LDR phase, then yr relationship isn't actually a relationship.
In fact, I'd recommend that EVERY relationship go through a LDR phase... for all sorts of reasons. Here are a few of the most important.
1) A LDR ensures that both of you have independent existences -- something that's as often overlooked as it is important.
2) A LDR tests the mettle of yr relationship MINUS the sexual attraction part. This is MORE important if the sexual attraction itself is blinding hot -- because, in that case, it's often impossible NOT to be blinded by lust when yr partner is nearby.
3) A LDR teaches you some delayed gratification. LOL
Seriously, it really puts yr value of commitment to the test. If you can't "hold out" until the next time you see yr partner... then, is yr commitment really a commitment?
4) You can make more intelligently planned decisions about living arrangements and so on, since no one's being thrown into cohabiting right away.
Also, if at least one of the two people has to make a big move for you to be together, then, you'll be versed in making these big life decisions BEFORE it's time to think about marriage, buying a house, having children, etc. (Lots of couples don't have to think about things like moving until that point... and then things just kinda explode in their faces.)
My husband and I were LDR for 14 months, starting the day after we met -- and that worked out wonderfully, in every possible way. ❤️
Would recommend to friends.3