My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. I won't lie, I am head over heals crazy for her. I love every little thing about her. But I feel so conflicted. I am super attracted to her, and she is to me. We both have the means of protection and know what we're doing. I just feel so conflicted. I want to do this and other things with her, but I also want her to remain pure I guess. I don't think I'd want to be with someone at this age that isn't a virgin so if we went through a break up I would feel so bad knowing I wasn't the first to my future husband or wife and she isn't either.
Maybe this is an unrealistic expectation, that I'll find someone who waits till marriage. But I know my parents did.
I guess the question is, I want to but should I? What would you do.
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Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't recommend having sex until you are 100% ready and not conflicted- no matter how long you have to wait for that. If you're conflicted and you choose to have sex anyway, you have a much higher chance of regretting your decision, and that would be crummy. Just wait. Do it when it feels right to you. Maybe you will wait until marriage, or maybe your views and feelings will change as you get older, but either way, there's no reason to have sex before you're completely ready. There is no rush.2
Most Helpful Guy
i don't understand this obsession with girls needing to be sexually "pure". Like, when i hear this stuff i sometimes feel like we're still living in the medieval era where virgin girls were bartered around like trading cards. Something so easily hidden/lied about just doesn't seem like something worth fussing over2