I have been on 8-10 first dates in succession when not one of them seemed like a promising possibility for dating. Then a girl came along who offered some hope of being interested in more than my bank account, of wanting more than just a reason to change her relationship status on Facebook. So, I decided to ask her for a second date.
When I get to a second date, I usually am not still looking for first dates with other girls. In the early stages of dating, I like to see a woman about once a week and I don't want to be distracted with other "candidates." This particular lady agreed to a second date, so off we go. I knew some negatives things about her but was willing to give her a chance and see if what she had to offer outweighed the negatives (which were things in her past.) And, frankly, I was tired of the first date treadmill.
After about 6 weeks, it became obvious that she and I were not meant to be "us," so we broke up. Shortly after that, I met my current girlfriend, and we have been dating for about a year.
MORAL OF THE STORY: evaluate each potential partner on their own merits. Don't let the frustration of dating affect the standards which you maintain for dating partners.
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Most Helpful Girl
Sort of. I got in a serious relationship with a guy who was supposedly the type I "should" settle down with (clean cut, good job, commitment minded) and kept blowing off red flags as me being too picky or something. Everyone was giving me so much flack for not finding my future husband that it got to me.
He ended up being extremely controlling and critical and I was miserable for two years before he left me for someone else who was more pliable.1
Most Helpful Guy
I am in an exclusive relationship because I have met an amazing person.1