Everyone gets rejected but sometimes it has nothing to do with you. You could forexample be asking at a very bad time or they could be in a bad mood etc.
Sometimes you're just unlucky.
But after how many rejections can you say there's something wrong with you and that you're just not good enough. Forexample if you ask out a 1000 girls and they all say no to you then thats a clear cut indication that you're just not attractive to the majority of woman.
I have aksed out and been rejected by 8 girls, I am 0 for 8. 4 of them had boyfriend so I dont know if I should count them (unless they are lying of course).
I am starting to think its just me not going good enough, certainly if I end 0 for 50 I would know for a fact I am not good enough. An attractive person would not get rejected 50 times in a row, that just doesn't happen.
Most Helpful Girl
what @cth96190 said is excellent advice for checking whether the rejections are about you or not, but there may be a better way than playing the numbers. Do you like yourself, and are you happy with yourself overall, meaning that there are only small things you would change about yourself?
If you are, great - play the numbers and sooner or later, you will find a great girl for sure. You might still benefit from practicing some skills like how to have a good conversation and really take an interest in people, or trying out a new look if what you like is maybe vastly different from the generally accepted fashion in clothes/hairstyle/personal grooming. If you aren't - it would really speed things up if you worked on yourself to the point where you can answer that question with a yes.
If you want to succeed a bit more on a more superficial level, I would add that some of the social habits / behaviours the successful "bad boys" exhibit can be learned. Most of all, exhibiting self-confidence is attractive, as is being a good conversationalist. Not taking yourself too seriously and being somewhat easy-going are also fairly attractive traits. There are good books and guides out there that can teach a lot about the social graces.
Being happy with who you are and how you look are still really the most important and most attractive qualities to have for being happy. When you are fully happy with yourself and like yourself as a person, other people take notice of it and it is a very attractive quality in both men and women.2
Most Helpful Guy
Without exaggeration, I would say that when I was your age my rejection rate was at least 99 to one.
There was nothing 'wrong' with me, although I have always been introverted and lacked social skills. Overall, I had a lot to offer, but it was not what the girls wanted.
At that age, they wanted players and some version of the sociopathic bad boy. Dirtbags and heartbreakers make their panties wet, when they are young. They thrive on the emotional rollercoaster and living in their own personal soap opera.
What I would suggest that you do is observe the sort of male who does find favour with the females who reject you. Make a list of the differences between yourself and those males. What you will create is a profile of demonstrated group preference. Then compare that demonstrated preference against what you have to offer. What I expect you to find is that you do not fit that profile. That does not mean that there is anything 'wrong' with you.
What I found was that as the females approached the age of 30 their preference in men began to change. Most of them moved from wanting players and bad boys to the sort of man who was not 'fun' enough for them when they were 20.
It has been said that when a woman is 38 she will kill for the type of man she rejected when she was 18. What a difference a couple of decades of life experience makes. It is a great pity that so many women throw away their years of peak beauty and fertility by being fixated on scumbags and losers, but that is how it is.
None of that knowledge will fill your empty heart at this time. I know what that pain feels like.
If you wish to continue to be interested in females, the only rational course of action is to play the numbers. Keep on asking until you get a yes.
If you continue to be interested in females, you will find that after 30 the situation will begin to change and by age 35 the women will probably be hitting on you, rather than the other way around. That was what happened to me.