2 years ago she and this guy dated for a year. She's now 21, he's 25. He broke up with her. It was obvious she cared for him way more than he did for her. She initiated 70% of the time.
Now, 2 years later, they live closer together and have been seeing each other again. She has asked him quite a few times now to be exclusive and that she wants to be his girlfriend, but each time he says we'll talk about it later, I am not ready for that, not right now, or he ignores her. They meet up, hang in his room, and have sex a few times a week, once again, initiated by her most of the time. She'll send him a dirty pic or just call him and invite herself over. This last week he asked her if she wanted to go out for a walk at this park and have breakfast, so that shows interest, yes? He also gets jealous if she talks to other guys, yet he doesn't want to settle down with her. They also go out to bars together sometimes. He is also still active on tinder.
What advice can I give her? I feel like I'm not helping bc I don't like the guy and I don't think she should continue seeing him, but maybe he just is unsure about what he wants?
Is he just using her to fill the time or is he just taking things slow?
i told her that he desires her but he is not in love with her. She's completely head over heels for the guy, and I don't know what to tell her anymore.
Most Helpful Guy
Maybe he is a womanizer. He doesn't sound like a husband / father merital. Often women go down these paths when choosing a mate. But forget there choices will inpack their future forever until they die. She will be like the rest of not all women around this age and she will not have a happy ending like she thinks she will if she stays, just my opinion.1
Most Helpful Girl
Girl... I'm in the same situation unfortunately. My friend is in NEARLY the same thing, and I genuinely dont like her boyfriend coz he already proved that he's unfaithful, they broke up, BUT he managed to play with her head and they ended up getting back together.
The bf's of our friends seem womanizers. And our friends seem to love them so damn much, to the blinded point.
I tried to talk with my friend, I warned her more than once, but she never listens... I came to realize that we won't be able to stop them... They will keep on doing the exact same thing until their hearts get broken all over again, and its sad.
the best thing u can do is warn her every once in a while, but don't have high hopes for her to dump him.1
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