So my boyfriend last night said he was expecting to be home around 11 (which was fine). I told him I would probably message him through the night and not to bother looking until he got home (only sent them so I'd remember what things I wanted to talk about when he got home) and I'd wait up for him at 11. 11 came around and he wasn't home. Then 12:30 came and he still never messaged me. I'm annoyed and upset because he didn't message me to tell me not to wait up and he'd be out longer than he thought. I didn't care that he wasn't home, I didn't care where he was, who he was with, or what he was doing. I just wanted a message saying he expected to be out longer... I don't think that is controlling but a little piece of me wonders if it is. Thanks
Most Helpful Guy
That is THE thing I hate the most about girls. Them thinking they control my agenda. He made the mistake of telling you he would probably be back around 11. He never told you he would or made a promise. I am a freaking adult. I am old enough to be able to go wherever I want, whenever I want, and come back at whatever time I want to without asking for anybody's permission. You are an adult too. I am not responsible for your life or your entertainment. Find something to do when you are alone, be more independant. So my opinion is that yes, you are being too controlling. It's not the end of the world, but it is annoying.
Stop "waiting" for him. That's annoying. That tells us guys that you are completely useless without us. It feels like you are a burden more than anything else and it looks like emotional manipulation too.
If he asks you to wait for him and tells you he will be back at 11 and then he is not, then yes, you can be pissed. If not, live and let live.0
Most Helpful Girl
It isn't controlling because you didn't even really care to know where he was, with who, etc. You were just expecting a heads up that you shouldn't wait up and I think it's common courtesy to say "I'm staying out later" if someone is waiting on you so they don't waste their time.1