Life hasn't been going too great. I've has previous trust issues with guys, and I really wanted to start over and find someone that truly cared about me. So I really wanted a boyfriend, I made an account on Tinder, and put a fake picture because I had a somewhat new phone and none of my good photos were on it. This one really cute guy and I were making conversation, and it was great until he found out about my picture and said how he really hates people that lie about what they look like. He added me on snapchat, and asked me to send him a picture of me, so I did. He was yelling saying how that it was wrong of me to post a fake picture, "who tf does that?", and proceeded to called me "ugly ASF" when I sent a picture. I told him off explaining my reasoning but he didn't read my messages, and he blocked me. Honestly, I've never been called ugly before, so it really hurt especially because he was cute. I downloaded pictures off my computer (OF ME) and changed my profile picture. I then told him on Tinder that I changed my picture and sarcastically asked "Are you happy?" and he said AGAIN how it was another picture that wasn't me ( it had a lot of sun glare and all you could be was my frame and my outfit but you could tell I wasn't ugly). He said that girl looked white, and I wasn't. Did he find me ugly, or blacks ugly?
So I was upset, and this other guy kept messaging me ( that I matched with) and I told him I upset, he genuinely wanted to know why, and told me I should send me a picture of me on Snapchat. I was extremely hesitant because after the other guy, I didn't want to be hurt again. So I did. He responded saying I wasn't as pretty as the girl in my profile picture. That's a backhanded compliment in my book. I didn't really know what he'd say, and I didn't know how to react. Both of those guys unmatched me on Tinder, and I promptly deleted it, even though my profile picture was truly me. I was mortified. (I'll insert a picture of my fake profile picture below)
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Honestly, it isn't wise to find a boyfriend online anyway. Most the time, talking to people on the Internet doesn't guve you a clear image of who they are both physically and personality wise. It wasn't very cool that you put up a fake picture, but the bathroom selfie above wasn't very clear anyway, so the boy was making quite a big deal out of nothing. However, it was good you told him soon, otherwise you would have really upset him and looked like a real catfish. I'm sure you are not ugly. Most boys online raise their standards to an unrealistic rate, because pretty much supermodels and Instagram stars are swimming in the same pool as you. Their fore, they search for these girls , who's professions are to look good online. This boy probably got excited when you messaged him, but felt hurt and betrayed when you told him it wasn't you. He probably only called you ugly because he wanted to hurt you, and you shouldn't let him. Any other reason could be because he thought you were sad/lonely/desperate catfish who uses other pictures because you are insecure, but that wasn't the reason! It was because of a technical problem!!! And since he didn't apologise for his words after you explained to him, he isn't worth your time. This is a stupid reason for him to be rude to you. It isn't as though you put up a selfie of Megan Fox and claim it to be yourself. So don't worry honey, these boys are not worth your time. Instead, try and talk to boys in real life, you'll find a lot less assholes. And the other guy was probably just being a nuisance, so just ignore him. good luck 💗2