Long story short, I'm a single mother who had a child with a Black man. He abandoned me while I was pregnant and never heard from him again. First couple of years was really difficult for me but I got helped from my family to get back on my feet.
Now back to my question, I meet this white guy at a megacon Convention. He was good looking, funny and we shared a lot of things in common. We went out for lunch, everything was ok until I showed him a picture of my child then he got really uncomfortable and he never called me back after the lunch we had together.
I don't even know why I even care, white men aren't even my preference but I'm just shocked...
Most Helpful Guy
If he didn't realize you had a child, that is at LEAST as likely why.
If not, yea, it's possible. Why?
- he may have suspected that 'white men aren't your preference' and he doesn't want to be with someone where he's not their preference.
- he may be threatened by you having black partners in the past if he imagines them as huge dicked thugs. Some guys seem to feel that way.
- he may have imagined walking around with you and the child and everyone clearly seeing it wasn't his, and that would bother him.
I'm not saying I consider these good reasons i'd follow, but I've heard them expressed.3
Most Helpful Girl
I think the most likely answer is that it was just a picture of your child full stop. There are some men out there (and women) who don't want to be involved with a single parent, and that's completely fine. Better to not do it than mess it up.
The only other thing I can think of is maybe he felt like you would expect more from him? I know the phrase is a bit of a joke but "once you go black you'll never go back" but statistically black men are more... well endowed down there. Maybe he didn't think he could measure up?
Or, maybe he's just a dick. Probably best just to move on from this one.3