You should assume you're not ready for this relationship and break it up. No 'darker' details needed - there is no point in having it more painful that it already is. Just be honest to him and give him the break.
Learned a bit more about commitment, dear. Just don't let others (or yourself) fool you in the future: it *does* matter to remain faithful if you're in a monogamical relationship.
Get your head on straight and don't cheat again. Do not tell him. It'll only make things weird and if you want this "best friend" in your life still then your boyfriend knowing you made out with him will send him in a tailspin and he'll try to keep you away from him. If you don't cheat you don't have anything to worry about. Remember that.
I don't understand how you can cheat on your boyfriend... What contract do you have with him? Did you both say I love you? I tell my dogs I love them all the time, if I pet another dog have I cheated on them? No, get married, if you sleep with someone then, then you are a cheater and guilty of infidelity. Right now you're just fornicating.
If you're cheating, then you know you have to stop or get out of the relationship. Most times people do it to search for something their partner is not giving them. But some people cheat just because they want a fling.
Do they really love their partner? Yes. Do they want to be with them? Yes.
It didn't mean anything, but you still have to communicate.
I think you should tell him. Honestly, it's already bad enough that you cheated on him, I don't think that continuing to lie to him throughout your relationship is going to make anything better.
Time for you to be honest and break up with him. He deserves better.
Don't buy your "feel awful" crap. 2 HOURS and you didn't think to stop? No, 2 seconds is an accident, 2 hours is a deliberate decision. You don't love your boyfriend and he deserves someone who does.
He doesn't know why you have disconnected and would be mis interpreting it. I think you have to confess and then be open as to why, and how you plan to change or if you do.
It could be the end, the beginning of some deep healing for you (like why you lack control when it was against your own values), or the beginning of a better start for both of you if you can get past it.
Being honest is always best, even if it may have consequences :o If you don't tell it and he discovers, everything may be lost. We all have weaknesses and if it's over now and your choice who you love is clear, you have a very good chance that after a difficult period things will come back to normal :D
i dont think any guy (or girl) believes y'all made out for 2 hours. and im sure he's not going to believe that either if you try to word it like you did here. Tell him What happens and get Ready for the break up.
i dont get why people who aren't ready for relationships get in one
I would not tell them because I do not see the point of doing that, I mean, what benefit do you see from telling him other than so that YOU will stop feeling guilty?
Her feelings of guilt (and curiosity, as cheaters tend to relapse sooner or later) will sabotage the relationship eventually. She's better off being honest about it.
You need to tell him, i really do not like cheaters. If you want to mess around with other guys then do not get into a serious relationship in the first place! Why hurt someone else just because of your own pleasure? You need to tell him and i hope he dumps you.
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Tell him so that he can make the decision to dump you. If you can't stand being in a committed relationship, you shouldn't be in one. You're obviously not ready to be in one if you cheat the moment your boyfriend leaves. Also, there is a chance that your best friend is secretly in love with you, and so you probably led him on with your small make out session. You're just a bitch.
you broke his trust, you betrayed him. staying silent would make things only worse.
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He at least deserves to know... How he reacts to it is up to him, but of you don't you're undermining the relationship. Honestly it boils down to self control. If you cannot hold yourself loyal to your boyfriend then really what is the point?
Well then just drop him gently day by day so his heart will not feel the sharp blade all at onec. Keep your secret so that he may not feel insecure an wonder why you do what you did.
Just tell him and see how he reacts to it! If your true to him he will see that you really like him But if you keep it a secret he will find out sooner or later and he will see your not t honest at all so I think you should tell him even tho it's hard be honest with him
Yes, no matter what you need to be honest. Though from what you wrote, it sounds like you don't have any self control around your, "best friend." So I just picture you doing this all over again the second your boyfriend is out of town for a bit.
Yes you should tell him. You shouldn't be messing around with your best friend while you're in a relationship with someone else, distance isn't an excuse. You should have broken up with him if you think you're going to cheat on him.
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You should just end the relationship! its females like you that embarass us other women! if you dont wanna commit.. dont string a man along! i have no respect for you
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You should assume you're not ready for this relationship and break it up. No 'darker' details needed - there is no point in having it more painful that it already is. Just be honest to him and give him the break.
Learned a bit more about commitment, dear. Just don't let others (or yourself) fool you in the future: it *does* matter to remain faithful if you're in a monogamical relationship.
Best of luck!
Don't tell him. Just break up. He deserves better than you, and if you tell him you'll just hurt him unnecessarily. The breakup will be enough.
Get your head on straight and don't cheat again. Do not tell him. It'll only make things weird and if you want this "best friend" in your life still then your boyfriend knowing you made out with him will send him in a tailspin and he'll try to keep you away from him.
If you don't cheat you don't have anything to worry about. Remember that.
I agree girl!!!
I don't understand how you can cheat on your boyfriend... What contract do you have with him? Did you both say I love you? I tell my dogs I love them all the time, if I pet another dog have I cheated on them? No, get married, if you sleep with someone then, then you are a cheater and guilty of infidelity. Right now you're just fornicating.
I srsly think that's an interesting pov.
A big yes.
If you're cheating, then you know you have to stop or get out of the relationship. Most times people do it to search for something their partner is not giving them. But some people cheat just because they want a fling.
Do they really love their partner? Yes. Do they want to be with them? Yes.
It didn't mean anything, but you still have to communicate.
Wishing you the best of luck.
I think you should tell him. Honestly, it's already bad enough that you cheated on him, I don't think that continuing to lie to him throughout your relationship is going to make anything better.
Time for you to be honest and break up with him. He deserves better.
Don't buy your "feel awful" crap. 2 HOURS and you didn't think to stop? No, 2 seconds is an accident, 2 hours is a deliberate decision. You don't love your boyfriend and he deserves someone who does.
He doesn't know why you have disconnected and would be mis interpreting it. I think you have to confess and then be open as to why, and how you plan to change or if you do.
It could be the end, the beginning of some deep healing for you (like why you lack control when it was against your own values), or the beginning of a better start for both of you if you can get past it.
good luck!
Being honest is always best, even if it may have consequences :o
If you don't tell it and he discovers, everything may be lost. We all have weaknesses and if it's over now and your choice who you love is clear, you have a very good chance that after a difficult period things will come back to normal :D
2 hour make out session. So you fucked. ok sweet.
i dont think any guy (or girl) believes y'all made out for 2 hours. and im sure he's not going to believe that either if you try to word it like you did here. Tell him What happens and get Ready for the break up.
i dont get why people who aren't ready for relationships get in one
I would not tell them because I do not see the point of doing that, I mean, what benefit do you see from telling him other than so that YOU will stop feeling guilty?
To be honest just breaking up with him for no reason would be more cruel. He will be left in question and constant wonder.
Her feelings of guilt (and curiosity, as cheaters tend to relapse sooner or later) will sabotage the relationship eventually. She's better off being honest about it.
You need to tell him, i really do not like cheaters. If you want to mess around with other guys then do not get into a serious relationship in the first place! Why hurt someone else just because of your own pleasure? You need to tell him and i hope he dumps you.
Tell him so that he can make the decision to dump you. If you can't stand being in a committed relationship, you shouldn't be in one. You're obviously not ready to be in one if you cheat the moment your boyfriend leaves. Also, there is a chance that your best friend is secretly in love with you, and so you probably led him on with your small make out session. You're just a bitch.
nah... last thing a guy wants to hear is another dude having his hands all over her.
you broke his trust, you betrayed him. staying silent would make things only worse.
He at least deserves to know... How he reacts to it is up to him, but of you don't you're undermining the relationship. Honestly it boils down to self control. If you cannot hold yourself loyal to your boyfriend then really what is the point?
He deserves better. Why do people do thing that tend to hurt the ones they love
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He does deserve better. Last week i wouldve never thought that i could be so stupid
Well then just drop him gently day by day so his heart will not feel the sharp blade all at onec. Keep your secret so that he may not feel insecure an wonder why you do what you did.
Just tell him and see how he reacts to it!
If your true to him he will see that you really like him
But if you keep it a secret he will find out sooner or later and he will see your not t honest at all so
I think you should tell him even tho it's hard be honest with him
Yes, no matter what you need to be honest. Though from what you wrote, it sounds like you don't have any self control around your, "best friend." So I just picture you doing this all over again the second your boyfriend is out of town for a bit.
Yes you should tell him. You shouldn't be messing around with your best friend while you're in a relationship with someone else, distance isn't an excuse. You should have broken up with him if you think you're going to cheat on him.
You should just end the relationship! its females like you that embarass us other women! if you dont wanna commit.. dont string a man along! i have no respect for you
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