What are things this person does?
Most Helpful Guy
I lived this:
Depends on the abusers defect, but I dated a "borderline personlity". They will pull you in and then push you away.
Highly moody (up and down)... like a roller caoster emotionally.
Lots of negativity
Controlling via emotion (like a child) to get what they want or have their needs met.
What it is like is... you start out feeling ok and by the end of it you/I could not feel my emotions, I had none. I was ground down like sawdust. took months to recover after 4 years. It wasn't all her "fault" I had my reasons for picking her, my flaws I brought into relationship... it isn't a one sided thing. But it was painful in that emotionally one shuts down.
Most Helpful Girl
They guilt trip you into doing something you don't want to, or to believing something you know to not be true.
They manipulate you into thinking a certain way.
They lie to you often, so often you believe them even though you know it isn't true.
Just talking to them makes you so sad and exhausted.
Their presence causes more unease than anything else.
You love them wholly yet they don't seem to love you at all.
They put you through a lot of unnecessary stress.
They treat your relationship as if it was a game.
They make you cry often.
They try to control you, your actions and thoughts.
They try to make you believe as if they're the only ones who will ever love you.
They'll make you feel like shit just by talking to them.
They'll try to make you believe that you can't get away from them.0