Been dating for over a year. We each have a kid from a previous relationship. WWeve discussed marriage and future plans. We almost bought a house but decided against it as we are both going back to school over the next few years. I decided to stay with my dad and he is going to stay with his mom.
So I've had some money and family problems and he wants to help. My family has been pretty consistent at ruining things for me in the past and he really wants me to be successful. So he says, if I need to i can move in with him as a backup plan- but in the attic?
The thinks the attic is more appropriate because he doesn't want his son to see us sharing a room when we aren't married. He offered to pay me for housework so I wouldn't have to work very much while in school.
I feel like his intentions are good, but he says he considers us family and this arrangement doesn't seem very family like. It seems more like a maid that puts out. I already told him I would only accept as a last resort, but I haven't told him how weird it seems to me. What do you think? Is this weird?
Most Helpful Guy
it depends what the attic is like , maybe its better than some I've seen before. it sounds like a genuine offer but may or may not be a nice place to stay0
Most Helpful Girl
It's one thing to be apart of a family and act like one, then there is another part where he doesn't want you around his son when you're not married and wants to pay you for cleaning the place up.
I understand that he wants to be a good role model to his son. If I could ask.. How old is his son? If you've been together for a year has he not spoken to his son about you?0
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