I just recently got out of a long-term relationship and have started reconnecting with some friends that I have fallen out of contact with. Of these, an old guy friend has been talking to me quite a lot, but I am currently not looking to jump straight back into a relationship as I still have feelings for my ex. I want to tell him that I'm not looking for a relationship but I don't want to automatically 'assume' that he likes me. At the same time, I don't want to lead him on because he is a good friend. What should I do?
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Okay so for some reason my reply didn't post... But I'm in the same shoes as you only this guy I barely know. And this is what I said (alter it however you need to to fit your situation):
"Look.. I don't wanna sound like an idiot right now so keep an open mind. Okay I really just wanna set something straight here.. Call it boundaries call it whatever you want. I don't wanna ASSUME what your intentions are so in case they're at least in the slightest bit romantically inclined I'd rather tell you this now. I really admire you as a person and I think you have a lot to offer. I find you one of the most interesting people I have had a chance of meeting and I would absolutely love to get to know you... However given the situation I am in i wanna make sure you know that I'm not exactly emotionally available and I would not want to ruin an opportunity of getting to know you by giving an impression that I am. Leading people on is not something that I do. And out of huge respect I have for you I wouldn't wanna put you in that situation... I hope that's understandable"1