Or just something close? I just feel so used by guys. And I know that's one big (sexist) generalization. I'm working on my mindset... I know that not all guys are the same. I hope guys can empathize with what I'm saying from their crappy experiences with the mean/petty/selfish/scary girls out there.
the ones who have shown interest in me are in it for the sex, or to get homework answers (back in high school and even college), or have attitude problems (act like spoiled children). I understand that the common denominator is me so maybe some of the problem is with me: I think about why I attract certain kinds of guys.
I have also tried to make the first move and it's a slightly better experience because they usually lose interest in me (they don't use me or stalk me. ). But I am so jaded over this dating process. I know it just takes one guy... but this sux.
anyone care to share on how to get more optimistic?
Most Helpful Guy
"But I am so jaded over this dating process."
- Dating is supposed to fun, if you're not having fun then take a break! Here's the way i see it.. if you are dating, texting or phone call and it's just "not happening?" Then that's just what it is.
I was at a wedding not too long ago and the bride's weddings vows really resonated with me, she said "... i was 34 and not sure what i was waiting for. My friends were getting married and starting families. I had relationships that i knew had no future. I thought i was just meant to be single but i waited.. i waited for what i don't know... but now i know, i was waiting for you."
You're 25-29, you still much time and much to improve, learn and earn in life. Keep knocking down goals, always improving yourself and it will just happen.
Take a break! I'm right there with ya!1
Most Helpful Girl
Perhaps, for now you could have fun as a single girl, and do things which make you happy and enjoy your life. They say that if you want to be with whichever *insert your traits here* guy that you want, you have to also be able to be on par with them.
For eg, Perhaps you want a nice guy who respects you and everyone else, so you got to be able to respect yourself and others too, in the same way, and so on and so forth. Cause the guy probably also respects himself in the same way too, thus why he is able to respect others too. But yeah, that is a really simple example. Okay here's another example, perhaps you want a guy to be able to accept you for who you are, so to do that, you got to be able to accept yourself too and others.
Basically a lot of these boils down to self-love, so perhaps you could spend more time cultivating it within yourself and as you do so, you set boundaries that shows others, that you love yourself enough to step away from toxic situations/relationships, thus eventually drawing only people who value and respect you in the same way that you will want them to. And yeah.
But anyway, I hope this helps, somehow! And all the best in your search/wait and all!1