We've been dating for 7 months and he stayed with his sister... but she moved to Texas and he was "homeless" but he was staying with his friends. He has a job in Kalamazoo... I understand that he moved closer to his job but I feel weird because he didn't tell me. I found out because I had to wire him money. He asked me if I wanted to have his kids and I actually thought I would like to have a family with him. But I just don't know what to do.
We really don't have a way to see each other, I don't drive or have my own place and he's the same. I don't feel safe taking a bus, especially by myself.
What should I do?
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I think it's a bit immature he didn't at least talk about this with you.
I mean obviously the situation could probably not have been helped with the whole sister move and work etc. But at what point in your conversations and phone calls did he not think to mention "oh by the way.. I have to move.. going this weekend" or whatever.
To not find out UNTIL he's moved is pathetic. He had the time he thought about it, the time he was packing, the 2.5 hour trip there etc to talk to you. And to tell you by asking for money? Is highly selfish.
It makes it hard obviously for your relationship. And you should ask him to put some thought into solutions because he's the one who up and moved. But you'll just have to put thought into how you'll do it. Get a car? Buses/trains?
My SO and I live 2.5 hours apart and I drive there every weekend (aka been here like the last 2 weeks ha) and we're talking about renting a place in a few months together. You TALK about these things.
Communication is numero uno in a relationship. Everything else stems on talking to each other and he failed that.0