I'm a college sophomore and I have no friends (don't want any. Friends always treated me terribly), and the only way for me to meet women is through a cold approach or online. How should i approach her to ease her into a conversation?
(don't say "smile, don't act like a creep" that's kinda obvious...)
where would ve a good place to meet women?
clubs are out since my college has a pathetic selection of clubs.
events are out because this is a small town.
bars are out because i hate drunks and alcohol.
parties are out because i hate idiots at parties.
sports are out because I have a bad shoulder and ankle.
Classes are out because I'm pretty much the only person at this college pursuing a journalism degree...
library is out because I've already tried it.
coffee shops out because there is only one in this town, and it's only take out.
ONLINE is definitely out since I've been on 6 different sites for a year visiting them daily and messaging multiple women daily with no results...
tinder is out because I can't receive a verification code via text.
Most Helpful Girl
Although you're the only one pursuing a journalism degree, you couldn't possibly be the only one in the classroom. And though your shoulder and ankle are bad, you could join a gym or work out, just don't do high impact exercises. Have you thought of joining an online community that is related to journalism? And the online dating sites are a bit flawed because the questions about one's personality tend to be answered inaccurately. Most people answer them in regards to how they want to be, not how they actually are.
And just out of curiosity, if you don't want friends, why bother meeting women for anything other than a hookup. Most good relationships need a good amount of friendship to work.0
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Most Helpful Guy
You should be prepared to be alone. Either you suck it up and be brave and go to one of these places that are "out" for whatever arbitrary excuse you gave or work on your wrist techniques. No one loves those scenes they endure those scenes because they're the most productive places for meeting people. A party gives people the excuse to just walk up and chat because it's understood that everyone at the party is at minimum willing to be approached. The alcohol is there because it effects people's inhibitions and allows people to do things they often would not. It's a double edged sword but it works. The loud music provides a distraction for odd lulls in conversation. Parties are purposefully designed for quick meeting and work significantly better than most other situations. So you're asking us to help you meet people while you're purposefully hindering your own chances by prejudging party goers. I was in a fraternity. The first guy I met before I joined was a physics major and we spent the night discussing astrophysics. That same night I met a theater major who gave a small monologue from the taming of the shrew" (I think). The second party I went to I bonded with a girl over how easy the ACT was compared to the SAT and made a bet about who scored the highest. We tied with a 33 and just drank anyways. Yes party people do dumb things but they aren't idiots. You just have to choose your party sites wisely and that means you have to go out and meet people there. I was like you when I started college. I thought people who partied were idiots but that was just a lie I told myself to avoid facing my social fears. My roommates forced me to go over and over until eventually I realized party people are just like everyone else. Some are really smart others are not its just Harder to judge because often everyone's a little intoxicated but if you sit and talk to them most can still hold a pretty decent conversation.1
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