I have always been the shy quiet girl. I got picked on a lot in elementary school for stupid reasons. I closed myself off. I don't have very many guy friends.. and it doesn't help that my career path is full of women. I'm in my last year of college and I got asked out once... emphasis on once. It was so awkward it couldn't even be considered a date. I think I'm just too awkward to date. I try to be positive about myself but my anxiety brings me down. I'm afraid that would turn off someone from being attracted to me. I don't want to hear that us girls have it easier than guys because we don't have to initiate. Hell my mom asked my dad to go out with her. And I know a lot of girls that did the same... I just want to know why am I so different? Many of my friend come to me for dating advice, yet I've yet to experience it myself. I've had crushes sure, but usually they would never know because they always seemed out of my league or taken already.
Most Helpful Guy
Thankfully for you, all of the things you've listed about yourself are not a death sentence when it comes to finding a guy. It probably would be had the roles been reversed.
Granted, you still have to be capable of conversation and at least appear like you are having a decent time around a guy or it won't get very far.
There are things you can adjust to appeal more to men. Giving off the impression that you are actually approachable is probably the biggest.
Also, at the end of the day... you should be trying to take matters into your own hands. As tough as it may seem, you can drop more hints around guys or attempt to break out of your shell a bit and just meet new people in general.
If you want something, put forth the effort and go after it.2
Most Helpful Girl
Hey! Don't be so sad! I have never been in a relationship and I think that is not necessary before you find a REALLY great guy. You have no rush! I know the feeling you have, I have experienced it myself. I have been really shy and awkward in those situations, but after a lot of weird situations I have finally got better.
I would advice you to try some dating app. There are a lot of creeps and probably not any very great guys, but there you can learn how to talk go them and get used to attention. Try it out and who knows maybe you'll find someone interesting there.
But take your friends and go to a club, or some fun event, and see how guys act towards you.
Trust me, you'll get better at talking to guys sooner or later, you just need to challenge yourself and walk out of that comfort zone!1