So my boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year. In Jan. I found out he was talking dirty/texting a chick I worked with as well as flirting with another girl I work with from the time we made it official-Jan. I confronted him and we talked and we decided to move past it. I do check his phone once a month because it's hard for me to trust he won't do it again. I love him and his son (the mom wants nothing to do with the child). I just can't move past what he's done. I don't think about it constantly like I use to, but it's still hard. He has made continued efforts to show me he's not gonna do it again, and I know he's truly sorry for what he did. The night I confronted him and left he cried and his mom and grandmother texted me asking if they could help and how he's never done this before and they want us to try to work it out. I guess my question is how? How do I get past this?
Most Helpful Guy
Once things get broken you can temporarily fix them
They can never be perfect like before
Think about it yourself1
Most Helpful Girl
Well; you can't. Just like you don't ever truly get over a person close to you dying. You just learn to cope and deal with it. You have to remind yourself daily of the fact that he has making up for his mistakes and that you need to see the person he is today and not the person he was yesterday. There's no magic recipe to make it go away. It happened and you will always remember it. BUT change your perspective on how you see it. Instead of viewing it as negative; see the things he has done to show you he loves you for real.0