I was talking to a family member who proclaimed I was "desperate" and have a "lack of self confidence and respect" because I asked a guy out and didn't allow him to pursue me. He really tried to make me feel small, saying I had issues with myself and being alone and all this other crap.. When literally all I did was ask a guy out who I have a crush on. I never ask out guys either because I rarely have crushes in general. But I thought woah! I actually really am diggin this guy, and because I am confident in who I am inside and outside, I thought why wouldn't he say yes? (He did say yes if I may add). But then my fam member said it'll always be me doing the work from here on out, that it'll never be equal and I'll always like him more. How is this so? I don't understand why all of this is assumed just because I felt confident to ask a guy out myself to get the ball movin?
Most Helpful Guy
There's nothing wrong with asking a guy out; you're not desperate2
Most Helpful Girl
I consider chasing someone when you are persistent in pursuing them. I also consider it chasing when a person shows lack of intereset by not responding to messages etc but you continue to initiate contact
Approaching someone and asking them out is assertive and shows confidence. It doesn't mean you are desperate , it means you are confident in yourself to go after things you want. Instead of sitting back and expecting others to pursue you.1