am I the only girl here who feels like I'm being degraded a little when guys say or say they want to do certain things and they are the ones in 'control' in the scenario? I mean, I am an independent woman and sometimes it's just too much for me. ?
Most Helpful Guy
The problem is some women like it and expect it, others completely don't. Guys have been told both and don't know how to act. Be dominant, take the lead, be decisive, but at the same time listen to everything she wants and don't pressure her. It's tough to win.
And just because you *feel* like you're being degraded doesn't mean that they see it like that or had that intention at all. If you want something and you're independent like you say, then make your position on the matter known. Be mindful that he's trying to navigate the situation as well.0
Most Helpful Girl
well i like taking the submissive role in bed it turns me on when a man knows how to take control (just in bed though. im not a super controlling person but i do make most of the decisions when im in a relationship and tend to be with submissive guys, which makes it even more attractive when such a submissive guy turns dominant in bed) but just like another girl said, its all about respect. of course if you (not directly implying you, just saying in general) have sex with some random guy who barely respects you, it would feel degrading to basically be used as his sex toy since he'd just be ordering you around and making you feel used, but if you're with someone who's serious about you and clearly respects you and stays in your comfort zone (like if you say you dont like your hair pulled, even though he's dominating you at the moment, he will listen and stop doing it because he actually cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you) then it shouldn't be a problem. but not every woman likes the submissive role in bed, maybe you're more dominant and thats cool too, there are plenty of submissive guys.1