So guys are biologically wired to be sexually attracted to big boobs and big butts cause they are seen as fertility signs. Thousands of studies have also shown, that girls are biologically wired to be sexually attracted to a guy with financial prowess and vast amount of resources ( so basically $$$$) to take care of our offspring.
Most Helpful Guy
It's not generally that "okay" for a guy to say he prefers anything physical about a woman. Unless he puts it very delicately and emphasizes that it's only a preference, he can piss off a lot of girls.
To me it's actually quite rational for a woman to want to be with a man who at least has a stable income.
I think the reason "gold-digger" is such a negative term is in the cases where a woman doesn't even care for the man, only his wealth. In that case she's "using" the man instead of loving him back.
Yet I think people mistake women who are genuinely attracted to wealthier men as gold-diggers. Some women might be attracted to a wealthy and successful man and genuinely love him. It's kind of understandable for power to instinctively attract at a biological level, and wealth is a form of power. It puts people high up in the social hierarchy, makes people bend to their will and attentive to their needs, much like someone who is popular for their charisma and a leader among friends.2
Most Helpful Girl
because its ok for guys to objectify women, but not ok for women to objectify men. this takes the power away from men, and they dont like being reminded that they can be reduced to commodities as well. men like to be liked and wanted for who they are as a person, not how much money they bring to the table. it hurts their feelings when a woman doesn't value a man for being himself.2